Michelle from BBC3’s Don’t Tell the Bride gives us some wedding tips
Michelle, director on BBC3s Don’t Tell the Bride, talks weddings, wedding planning and has some useful tips for Godwick Brides
What is the strangest wedding you have been involved with?
I think the strangest wedding I have ever been involved with was an underwater wedding. This wasn’t s a glamorous affair in some exotic place…No, our groom arranged for his bride, Hayley, to marry him at the bottom of the pool at his local leisure centre! Hayley was completely shocked when she discovered her hair, make up and dress were all about to be dunked. After a few tears (and some of those were from the bridesmaids who we’re given matching swimming costumes) Hayley decided to take the plunge.
Yes and no. Our groom choose that pool as that is where physiotherapist Hayley had taught him to swim and cured him of his fear of water. To our groom Hayley was his little mermaid (Ahhh). The sentiment wasn’t lost on our bride and once she got over the shock, and swam down the watery aisle, she had the most memorable wedding (and strangest) wedding I have ever had the privilege to witness.
You are getting married yourself this year, have you picked up any tips?
Try to do your own things and make it unique to yourself. It’s not about the best bouquet, or table centre or invitation is about what represents you. My favourite wedding cake of the series was our Scottish couple – he had a cake made in the shape of her nose. Why? Because she thinks its too big and he thought it would be funny. We cringed as she approached the cake waiting for a bridezilla fallout. Instead she bent double laughing! Just goes to prove he knew her well!
I’ve also learnt that men are awesome wedding planners. They bring fun and practicality. I think it’s a shame they get so pushed out of wedding planning.
So make sure your man has a say in his big day too – even if it’s a bizarre idea like a rodeo bull. It might be daft now but at 1am on your wedding day it will be hilarious.
And my final tip is to haggle and if you still can afford something then beg, borrow or make it yourself!
What is the top tip you would give to a bride and groom when organising their wedding?
As a director on DTTB I would say don’t sweat the small stuff . Everything that goes wrong will just make the story of your wedding day more interesting. The one recurring theme on DTTB is that love conquers all. Even a terrible wedding dress and being thrown out of a helicopter on your wedding day.
You’ve been to Godwick, do you think it would make a good DTTB venue?
Yes! What we really encourage our grooms to do on DTTB is to take a blank canvas and make it their own. I think Godwick barn looks beautiful as it is, but you can also do so much – adds some trees and turn it into Alice in Wonderland. Add some bunting and hay bales and set up your own Country Fair. Throw in some thrones and a carvery and go medieval- there are so many possibilities.
Also I absolutely love the idea of getting a tractor ride out to the folly – that would that make a great shot – I’d insist we did that!
What is the biggest mistake a groom has made on your show?
I think the infamous mistake is the groom who decided to get married in Vegas and only a few of the brides family could afford to fly out. Thats the closest we ever came to not having a wedding. It’s always a good idea to invite the guests!
What advice would you give bridesmaids and best men to support the wedding couple?
I’m super lucky. My Bridesmaid is the most organised person in the world. In fact if she hadn’t insisted that I went wedding dress shopping I would probably never had got a dress in time! I guess Bridesmaids and Best men just have to have an inhuman amount of patience to deal with people going through a really self obsessed stressful time in their lives. Deep breaths, keep positive and a whole mountain of forgiveness. Oh and lots of champagne at ever possible moment…for any reason!
Have you picked up any cost saving tips?
There’s lots of ways to save money. The biggest is to have a last minute wedding. You can save hundreds in venue fees. Also consider having a mid week wedding is cheaper.
There are lots of little things you can do to save cash- get friends to help, borrow someone’s posh car instead of hiring one, you don’t really need favours, you don’t have to put thousands behind the bar, you can make your own cake etc.
From my personal experience weddings are expensive so set a budget you can afford and stick to it – and try not to pass out in horror at every bill you get! Hopefully you’ll never have to do it again!
What is the best thing about a British Wedding?
We love a party don’t we? Getting All your friends and family together is a rare thing and when us Brits do it – we do it well!
Weddings are the epitome of Britishness- we start of with a reserved elegant ceremony…then the British reserve is cast off and we descend into raucous party!
The best thing about a British wedding? The memories – whether getting married underwater or in a beautiful barn make sure your wedding is one you remember!